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Ying ☁️'s avatar

felt this!! growing up in an asian household really takes a toll on your self confidence

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umrah [عُمْرَة]'s avatar

I feel this deep within my bones. This was a great piece, amu! And remember for us, you’re awesome and nobody can be you ^^

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amu ౨ৎ's avatar

thanks umrah!! I really appreciate it :D

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Aastha's avatar

Oh god I can relate. My parents have been supportive and tend not to compare me with others, but I see it constantly in the way my brother and cousins are talked about

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amu ౨ৎ's avatar

my parents are also pretty supportive compared to others, which is why I mentioned indirect criticism. they don't mean to hurt you in any way, but it still does affect you.

thanks for the comment btw <3

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Aastha's avatar

yes i agree!

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Aastha's avatar

It’s a very competitive culture… and I think part of it is because there are so many people, especially in India, so naturally there are just more people to compete against.

Being compared to her older brother is what crushed my mother’s confidence entirely. It’s heartbreaking to see. I sometimes feel like I’m getting crushed by comparison too… but a lot of it is my fault rather than my parents 😭

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